Neutral or Selective? How Schools Handle the US Flag and Speech
A few Septembers ago, I walked into a high school before first period and paused in the doorway. Two dozen teenagers stood to recite the Pledge. One kid kept his hands in his hoodie pocket and stared at the floor. Another wore a small flag pin near his collar, the clasp crooked. In the back row, a student sat, lips still, looking toward a rainbow flag sticker on a laptop. The teacher, a veteran with a calm voice, led the room, then moved on to a quiz as if nothing unusual h
Identity Under the Stars and Stripes: What Role Should Schools Play in Shaping a Child’s Relationship to the American Flag?
The school day had barely started when my eighth graders stood for the Pledge. A few eyes tracked the red, white, and blue hanging above the whiteboard. A handful of students stayed seated, quiet and steady. One girl placed her hand over her heart and whispered the words, another mouthed nothing and looked out the window toward the soccer field. No one argued. Afterward, we opened our notebooks and moved into a discussion about civic symbols and civic actions. The students
What Does Removing the US Flag Tell the Next Generation About America?
A few years ago I visited a middle school that had just finished a renovation. Fresh paint. Bright, flexible classrooms. A gym that smelled like new sneakers. The principal walked me through the main corridor, proud of the space, until we reached the atrium where the flag should have been. The pole was there. The hooks were there. The flag was not. A parent committee, after a heated debate, had asked to remove it from that high-traffic spot and relocate it to a side hallway
When the Flag at School Meets the Flag at Home: What Happens When a Child’s School Values Clash with Their Family’s?
The first time I saw the conflict up close, I was standing beside a third grade teacher during morning announcements. The class had learned a new school pledge focused on kindness, inclusion, and being an upstander. A quiet boy, new to the school, would not say the pledge. His family held a conviction that oaths belonged only to church and family, not institutions. His classmates stared. The teacher glanced at me, wondering if she should insist. In that frozen moment, real
Because It’s Patriotic: The Everyday Power of Flying the American Flag
Dawn breaks, the birds stir, and there is a hush that lives in the breath before sunlight. I have raised the Stars and Stripes in fog, in desert heat, and in the middle of a thunderstorm that made the pulley sing on the halyard. You tug the rope, hear the snaps bite the grommets, and feel a quiet line of connection run from your hands to a long lineage of hands that did the same. That small ceremony is not for show. It is For Love of My Country, for neighbors still asleep,
Why Is It Easier to Remove the American Flag Than Defend It?
A few summers ago, a small-town library I know took down its lobby flag to make space for a display on local art. The director figured it would be a one-week rearrangement, not a statement. Within a day, she had two angry voicemails accusing her of hating America and three emails praising her for being more inclusive. She put the flag back. The art display moved to a hallway. No one felt great about it. That tiny episode captures a larger pattern. All across the country,
Inclusion or Erasure: What Does Removing School Prayer Really Mean?
A few years ago I sat in a crowded gym on a Friday night while a high school football team took the field. https://felixdaxi484.northstarcolumn.com/posts/private-belief-or-public-identity-how-should-faith-be-treated-under-the-first-amendment The announcer asked for a “moment,” and the place fell quiet. Some bowed their heads. Others stared at the flag. A few teenagers whispered and snickered, then went silent. When the whistle blew, you could feel the room exhale. Later I
Should Anyone Feel Uncomfortable Seeing the American Flag in America?
On my first day helping a small-town high school with a civics program, I paused in a quiet hallway and noticed an empty flag bracket near the auditorium doors. The principal told me it had been removed after a complaint that the flag made a few students feel unwelcome. No one was ordered to take it down. No legal letter arrived. Still, the flag disappeared. It was easier to store it in a closet than to host a conversation that might turn hot. Easier to sidestep hurt feelin